June 11, 2008

How do you say goodbye to your mom...

I am having a hard day... I am suppose to be heading to Washington in the morning, and I have been struggling to get myself going.

My mom is very ill and leaving us soon.. how do you say goodbye :(

My heart hurts.


  1. Debbie Cassaro6/11/2008 5:32 PM

    I am really sorry to hear about your Mom. My heart goes out to you, Hugs, Debbie

  2. Hi, I just stumbled upon your site..from your post on Pioneer Woman.

    I am so sorry to read about your Mom. My mom died after living with a brain tumor for a little over 4 years. In the end I made sure to tell her "that she did a great job raising my sister and me. I also told her that I forgave her for any mistakes she may have made, because in the end we turned out fine." I basically forgave her for some rough times that we went through. I wanted to give her the gift of peace and forgiveness. I hope that it helped her as much as it helped me.
    Good luck, and may peace be with you.

  3. Hello, Joy,
    This is my second try at leaving you a comment. Hope this gets through. Just know I understand fully your tightrope walk of love and service to your mom now, along with the hard-to-describe challenges. It's really the hardest thing I've ever done. My mom is now thriving in a nursing home, actually happy, has a boyfriend, and is beautifully cared for. I never expected that to happen. I'll pray for you as you make wise choices. Don't be afraid.
    In His love,
    Virelle Kidder,
    author of Meet Me at the Well

  4. Sending you some love.
    Your Mum is lucky to have daughter like you.
    God will give you the strength to go on doing the right thing for you and your family whether that be caring for her yourself or in a residential situation.
    You are no less of a daughter for being human.
    I have not walked in your shoes but my Mum did with her mum, my Gran. Eventually she had to accept that she could no longer care for Grandma without destroying her own health. And then who would look after her? or Grandma?
    Don't beat yourself up if the best way is to have others assist with your Mum's care. You are too close to see the picture in the round and no daughter could do more than you have.
    Your Mum will not love you any less for doing what you have to now. You have to look after yourself too so that you can be strong for all your family.
    I wish you peace of mind and strength to cope with the days ahead


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